thoughts on motherhood
part two

May 11, 2019

Read Part One here!

First up on Thoughts on Motherhood, Part Two is Amy! I photographed her family last fall and it sounds like her son has grown up so much since I last saw him!

Amy started out saying, "I'm a mother of one--Kilian Andrew. A 16-month-old boy who loves reading books, listening to music, playing outside, and helping with chores around the house. Being his mother is nothing short of magical. Although young, his positivity and resilience inspire me. When I make roasted vegetables, he loves moving the chopped veggies from the cutting board to the pan before I put them in the oven. Kilian also loves helping me push the laundry baskets into the laundry room and putting the clothing in the washing machine. If things are quiet in the house, you will find him reading books. He loves to flip through the pages and try to sound out letters. I'm so impressed with the human brain and its capabilities at such a young age. It's fascinating to see just how much this little boy understands and what he is capable of with help. Kilian loves being independent and has had his own opinions about what he would like to do almost from birth.

Stay-at-home mom, working mom, work-from-home mom. There are debates all over the internet what is best for you and your child. But there really isn't one right or wrong way. You know what is best for your child and yourself (mental health is so important!). I asked Amy which category she fit into she responded, "All the above! I work from home during nap-time and go into the office once a week. When my baby is awake we are together learning, reading, swimming, playing outside, and adventuring in our community. I love pursing my career goals and raising a baby. Doing both so is not only possible, but is more fulfilling than I could have ever imagined. As my little boy grows I hope he learns the importance of pursuing an education and making an impact in his chosen profession. I hope he sees how much potential he has and isn't afraid to take the path less traveled!"

With kids it's always a balancing act and I love how involved Amy is with her son even though she works. Just because you work doesn't mean you should feel any guilt about being away from your children. Kilian has such a wonderful mom and knows it!

Next up is Savannah! She has a lot of great advice for stay-at-home moms. I didn't want to leave anything out so here are the questions I asked and her answers!

Are you a stay at home, work at home, or working mom? What do you love about it and what is challenging about it?

"I'm a stay at home mom. I am very happy about it as I am very independent and like to be in charge of my own time. I like to think I will own a business someday, but for now, I’m having a fun time going on field trips with my little lunch buddies. They keep me moving and once they’re in school full time I’m going to miss being so busy!"

What was the most challenging thing for you about becoming a mother?

"I have a powerful need to make things. I feel achy and sad when I don't get to create for long periods. For me it is definitely the fact that when I have an idea (and I think of "6 impossible things before breakfast" and beyond!!) I can't act on it right away. I have to bide my time until I have a moment to work on it and by then the list has grown so long it's hard to know what to work on first!"

What do you love about being a mother?

"I love having excuses to do kid stuff. Going to museums and parks, looking at bugs and critters and being silly is so fun. I'm a big kid at heart (I still collect toys and I like to play dress-up!) so it's just natural for me to want to be around little people who see the world in new ways. Kids surprise you and teach you so much!"

What is the best advice that you've received from your mother that you've applied to your own parenting?

"For me it's more about the example she set for me. She would sing with us, take us to the library, laugh with us...she really was supermom. Remembering the good times I had with her helps me to remember to take time and cherish my kids in the same way so they can take those memories with them when they grow up. She still has a lot of great advice, but what is even more powerful is the love that shines through her actions."

What do you love about your kids?

"They are both SO different in personality and round each other out so well. Leon is inquisitive, has an amazing memory and incredible hand-eye coordination skills. Felix has a vast imagination and can be fierce AND affectionate. It's so neat to see the different ways they interact and each has something special they bring to the world."

What advice would you give to new moms?

"Network with other moms who have similar interests as soon as you are able. You absolutely CANNOT isolate yourself. It's crucial to your mental health to have other moms to share your feelings with, to lift you on your down days, to help you take a break if you need. It could even save your life. Reach out to other moms and build a web of support for each other!"

What helps you through the difficult days of being a mom?

Scary Mom and other sarcastic mom blogs. Seriously, the more snarky the better. I go in feeling overwhelmed or angry and come out laughing and feeling amazing. It really helps to know you're not alone and that parenting is crazy no matter who you are. Let your feelings come and go. Talk to another mom if you can. Take in the big picture - if your kids are alive, you're already doing it right by nature's standards! You go girl I like to "Marie Kondo" my mindset and let go of what's not important right now. It really helps keep my day in focus.

I loved hearing the perspectives from Amy as a working mom and Savannah as a stay-at-home mom. Whatever you choose to do in your journey of motherhood is right for you. Now I want to turn attention to someone who desperately wants to become a mother.

Pictured below is my sister Tyla (she had some awesome purple hair here) with her husband Oscar and she is the main reason I decided to do this blog series, Thoughts on Motherhood. She has been struggling with infertility and was recently diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome. Her doctor is hopeful that she can help my sister with some new treatments but it's something that's more expensive than past treatments. So I want to help her by running a special sale on my family and newborn sessions.

When you donate ANY amount to her Go Fund Me page you will get 50% off a family or lifestyle newborn session (that's only $125!). They've raised $600 so far and I want to help them reach their $2500 goal before the end of May. And if they do reach their goal by the end of May everyone who donates will be entered to win an 11x14 museum quality canvas gallery wrap ($400 value) after a session with me. Once you've donated send a screenshot of your donation confirmation email to and who you want the 50% coupon to be made out to (you can keep it for yourself or gift it!). You can use the coupon for any available date in 2019! Help my sister beat infertility!